Thursday July 30, 2009
i will do this my own way and it will not be tidy
"A mother with a child who is different must have the endurance of Sisyphus, the fearsomeness of the Cyclops and the tough hide of Caliban to go against a mean-spirited culture.
In order for the mother to withstand she must have some very fierce qualities…
...the mother who wants to engender esteem in herself and her off-spring needs vehemence, fearlessness and fearsomeness.
For a mother to happily raise a child who is different in needs from that of the mainstream culture, she must have a start on some heroic qualities herself. She must be able to steal these qualitites if they are not allowed, shelter them, unleash them at the right time, and stand up for herself and what she believes.
There is no way to make oneself ready for this, other than to take a deep draft of courage and act.
A considered act of heroism is the cure for stultifying ambivalence.”